Seriously just dont

Never thought I would have to write something like this because it should be known by all. Do not talk about an ex on your first date with a new person or grill your date about their past on the first date EVER!!!! I understand wanting to know things if your looking for a serious relationship but it's better to not do this on a first date. You will SCARE your date away. You need to be open minded on a first date otherwise it really won't go anywhere. Its best to learn about their past relationships later. Plus don't be too stuck on their past people change but still be cautious. Sometimes people don't learn to  change their ways.

-ChrisVigilante

Last name

My friend has gotten into an argument with both her boyfriend and her brother. What about? The fact that she refuses to change her last name when she gets married.

My opinion on this issue is that times have changed some people may expect a woman to change their last name to their husbands but less woman are doing it every year.Her brother says your just supposed to because everyone does. Not true. This reminds me of when people believed that a wife was the property of the husband. At least with the reasoning that some people have given me.

It really is a custom that is for many people blindly followed. However the name change can be a sign of union between the two people getting married. If this is your reason for the name change or another logical reason then this is good. You shouldn't have to do anything because everyone one else has been doing things that way for years. Times changes and luckily we have changed overtime. So for my friend and everyone else you dont have to change your last name think about if you want to or not.

I am falling for my best friend

I have fallen for my best friend

Girl or guy first thing is to think if you go for this can your risk loosing the friendship. Even if you just want to see if your friend feels the same way your risking it being very awkward between you if they say no. Once you’ve decided if its worth it or not. Or if you decide that If you don’t you’ll always think what if I had said something and they did feel the same way. Then you can either tell them or try to see if they like you in a clever way. You can leave subtle hints even if its just looking at them in a different way or complimenting them more than you usually do for appearance or personality. This will hopefully get their attention.

I’ve seen another option work even though it did not for me. Physical contact increase. This is when you try to allow for more contact between the two of you to see how they react. A hand on the shoulder. A hug, legs or arms rubbing up against each other etc. You can see if they react by letting you continue or by increasing their physical contact with you or if they look at you like your crazy. Advance or not to advance.

Or again there is that way that might work and then again might not. Just tell them and see what happens from there. Tell them that things wont change between you if they don’t return the feelings . Tell them that its just best for me to know now then to keep wondering . Its really hard to do sometimes believe me. It sucks if they don’t too but I think its better to know.