For Him/For Her

Its how many days away!

This is what my friend said when she realized Christmas was approaching quickly and she still had not gotten a Christmas Present for her boyfriend. So I decided Id help her out by giving my list of best and worst gifts for your boyfriend/girlfriend. I asked some friends what they are giving their significant other.

The best thing is something that everyone else might not get but you both will. Something that shows that you know that person. An example is my friend Beth who is giving her boyfriend a pair of Yu-Gi-Oh tins for Christmas. I think that’s great. It may seem like a weird gift but she knows him. Another person said they’re gift that is weird but cute because that explained his relationship. I love the idea behind that.

Clothing is a great option. If you know how to pick out clothes your boyfriend/girlfriend. If not and you want to buy clothes for them ask a friend for help. Maybe one of their friends. As for good choices on clothes. Here are some ideas for clothing based off of different people’s answers.

Guys Answers : Juicy couture bag. An outfit, shoes ( usually good for girls, if you pick a pair they would like).
Girl’s answers: Shoes- Jordan’s, Cabana Jones , his favorite Basketball player’s Jersey.

Lingerie was also a popular answer: I already told one friend that I think it’s a bad idea. Unless you already have a very sexual relationship with that person. Because your saying HAVE SEX WITH ME! Good or Bad depending on the type of person your with and the way that your relationship is structured. I don’t want to think about this one anymore.

As my sister said gifts are easy, girls want Jewelry. Jewelry is also good. Bracelets, necklace, earrings or a ring. Just don’t be too cheap please. There’s nothing worst than really cheap jewelry. Girls can get a nice watch or chain for their guys. My friend Cassie is getting an expensive watch for her boyfriend.

The best idea I heard was from my friend Maggie who is taking her boyfriend to the Mall to pick out his own present. Sure it takes away the surprise but it works since they have not been dating for very long. I also like it because it takes the stress out of gift giving. Don’t be like my friend Chris who still has not thought about the gift he’s giving his girlfriend. He thanked me for reminding him. It can be difficult to choose one even with these helpful tips. So start thinking about it early.





Any questions?, Other things you want me to mention about gift giving?, Topic for future blogs Etc. Then comment below.

Relationships going from High School to University

I don’t think you should become too attached to a person in High School. Sure some high school relationships do last as many people keep telling me. I just don’t think it is very likely. I knew going into high school. I was planning on going to college. I am seeing people whose college decision is being influenced by who they are dating. I knew I did not want that problem my sophomore year. “ I want to be close to my girlfriend” or “ I don’t want to leave him behind”. These are both things I have heard friends say. Your future should only be effected if you truly believe you want to be with this person forever, that you will marry them. This is possible. I have two friends that are planning to get married after high school.

I hate to be a downer but I even think that one of my friends is going to end up leaving her boyfriend behind for her career. I have told him that I think that will happen. He’s completely in love with her. I believe she is too but like me she is a career/ goal oriented person. She wont go to a school just to be close to him. She will go to one that’s best for her future career goal even if its on the other side of the country from him. Knowing my friend he would be crushed by it. Don’t put yourself through it unless its worth being with that person for a limited amount of time.

Still I think it can be sometimes worth it. I know three young couples who are getting married right out of high school. Two very soon. I cant wait for the wedding. Here’s a fact I will state . The two that are getting married soon aren’t going to college. They started working right away. The other two that are planning to be married are going to the same college. So I think relationships work best in these situations. If not don’t go to schools too far apart. Two hours apart seems to be a good distance for my friend Anna and her boyfriend. Just be cautious with how deep you fall for someone unless you know where its going.

Pull the band-aid for their sake

So you get the most heartfelt sweet and romantic letter possible from a guy. Or someone spills their heart out to you . Or a girl just tells you how she feels. “ I want to be with you”, “ I love you” etc. This is great except you don’t like/love them back. So you need to deal with this . Here is my guide.

First thing you have to tell them. Never try to avoid it. Or say I will just go out with them that was so sweet or I’m desperate (been there). It sucks for that person and sucks for you. Now how to tell them.

Best way is to “pull the band-aid” as I like to say . Go in and do it quickly especially if you really have a problem with it. Not saying to just say “I don’t like you bye“. You can let someone down easy but do it as soon as possible if you don’t you might not be able to do it. Another problem is that waiting can give people hope that you will say yes when you wont. Its better for the person for you to just tell them. I know I would like to know so I could try to move on. Knowing right away makes it easier.

Another problem is where to tell them which depends on your relationship with that person and the type of person you are. If you think there will be an awkward moment don’t tell them in private. Or if in private make it somewhere you can leave after telling them without problem. Telling them with people present is fine as long as no one can hear you. A letter is a good way If you don’t want to say it. A letter is easy to give them in public as well. Many people either won open it there or wont cry in public if it comes down to that.

Remember this is based on my personal experience on the subject matter been on both sides of it before. It isn’t my most objective decision this time.

"The two backstabbers and the dirty skank".

What to do when you love a girl but competing with two of your friends?


The consensus on this situation from the people I have talked to are as follows is that it is not something that should go on for too long. The main reason being the girl. 9to the girl)

It’s too much drama for one girl to handle. You cant keep letting these guys fight over you especially if their friends. Them being friends makes it a one way ticket on the crazy train for you girls in this situation.


Here are some possible solutions the guy can make in this situation or the guys.

1. Make the girl choose. It gets it over quickly hopefully you can still stay friends with the other two guys if you are true friends.

2. Talk to the other two guys. Come up with the decision that neither of you should go with her or pick the one that does. No one is really one of the best options in this situation. Especially if your friends with the guys previous to the girl being in the picture. If not its still the least dramafied situation.


3. Basically fight it out get it over with and done . Doesn’t sound like good advice but I know it comes down to that sometimes if people aren’t willing to communicate. Honestly the two above options are better, but I’ve seen a situation where none of the above options have worked because of the certain people involved stubbornness.

Final thing I have to say to the guy is that

She could be leading all three of you or two of you on. If she’s leading you on as my friend on daily booth said “She needs to be slapped“. You don’t play with peoples hearts like that. Any guy in this situation should really consider what the girl is thinking. The song Beating Hearts Baby by Head Automatica is the first thing that comes to mind because of the line, Is this love for real? If its not get the heck out of there as my cousin says. You’ll be heartbroken for a bit but will be able to move on because following is not any better. Trust me on that one. I know.

Kissing on the first date/ kissing

I cant say that you shouldn’t kiss on the first day because it really is based on the person and their situation. I know tons of people who kiss on the first date all the time. I am the type of person who usually doesn’t until the second or third date, but it really does depend on your situation. If you have known the person for an extended amount of time before your first date then its definitely fine. If you just had a really fantastic first date then its fine. Your not a bad person if you kiss on the first date, but if you hold out until the second or third date I think the kiss is better. There’s more passion from the waiting it out. How someone kisses is also a factor in if you want to date someone sometimes. So if you want to know right away no one should blame you. So it really does depend on your preference. As long as I’d say the 5th or 6th date at least you have kissed. Only counting private dates not group dates. At the 5th date you should be ready. Or you need to ask yourself where the relationship is going.

His/her friends hate me (advice)

If you like someone and you think they like you go for it people. Don't let something like the fact that his/her friends hate you get in your way. If that person really likes you it shouldn't matter. When you are together their friends don't need to be around. Spend your time together not on group dates with her friends. If the person you like values their friends opinions that much. You need to get over them and find someone else because its their problem. Don't say but its difficult I really like them. They don't like you enough to choose you over what there friends or family in some cases will think so give up on them. Please if your in this situation take my advice.

Remember there are plenty of fish in the sea