So you get the most heartfelt sweet and romantic letter possible from a guy. Or someone spills their heart out to you . Or a girl just tells you how she feels. “ I want to be with you”, “ I love you” etc. This is great except you don’t like/love them back. So you need to deal with this . Here is my guide.
First thing you have to tell them. Never try to avoid it. Or say I will just go out with them that was so sweet or I’m desperate (been there). It sucks for that person and sucks for you. Now how to tell them.
Best way is to “pull the band-aid” as I like to say . Go in and do it quickly especially if you really have a problem with it. Not saying to just say “I don’t like you bye“. You can let someone down easy but do it as soon as possible if you don’t you might not be able to do it. Another problem is that waiting can give people hope that you will say yes when you wont. Its better for the person for you to just tell them. I know I would like to know so I could try to move on. Knowing right away makes it easier.
Another problem is where to tell them which depends on your relationship with that person and the type of person you are. If you think there will be an awkward moment don’t tell them in private. Or if in private make it somewhere you can leave after telling them without problem. Telling them with people present is fine as long as no one can hear you. A letter is a good way If you don’t want to say it. A letter is easy to give them in public as well. Many people either won open it there or wont cry in public if it comes down to that.
Remember this is based on my personal experience on the subject matter been on both sides of it before. It isn’t my most objective decision this time.
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